Thursday, May 6, 2010

My Autobiography


Who I was

I was born on the 8 of august 1991
I have lived in corozal my entire life
I have two brothers and four sisters.
I am the middle child in my family or at least i was until a year ago when my parents adopted a newborn baby from Belize city.
Almost a year ago my parents split up so my father has moved to the city and i haven't seen or spoken to him since( not that i want to!)
I don't miss him at all.
He wasnt a good father to us and we are much harrier now that he isnt around to bother us.
I graduated from corozal community college when i was 17 years old and have completed a year and a half of junior college majoring in biology.
One thing that i am very proud of is the fact that i graduated from primary school with the highest PSE score (Primary school examinations.) and up to today i still have the highest score for PSE at the school that i attended. I also did quite well on the CXC examinations ( Caribbean examination Council) with grade one in math( basic),English A, Social studies and human and social biology; grade two in English B, Principles of business, General biology and a grade three in Spanish.
One of the saddest and most traumatic moments of my life was when a guy who was my friend died in our last year of high school. It was the first time in my life someone who i had known died, and so naturally i had sort of a hard time accepting it. As if that wasn't enough a month after that my grandfather died.
One of the happiest moments of my life so far was probably the day that i realized that i love someone for the first time. I am not an emotional person and i find it hard to become attached to people and actually feel intense and serious emotions but this time i did and i was sure of it. By now you probably think that i fell in love with some guy right?. Wrong! I have never been in love with a guy. I was speaking about my little brother that we had adopted. I usually am indifferent to my siblings, there is just too much of them and they are annoying but this one i actually love.
I believe that the person who has influenced my life the most has been my mother because i see how she tries to do the right thing and how the decisions that she made when she was young are coming back to haunt her now. I don't ever want to be in her position and she always gives us advice to never do the same things that she did.She married really young and have many children she has been married twice and had a common law marriage for many years.
Other people who have influenced my life are Pastor Max Rudd and his church in Oklahoma who have been very Kind to me and my family and have always been there to support us with Love and affection.

Who I am

I like to reading thrillers and romance novels. I am really starting to like historical fiction. I also like watching Tv. I like horror films and romantic comedy. some of my favorite movies are; The covenant, the blindside, Twilight, and so much more it would take me weeks to list them.
My favorite TV series is Bones, which is about a Forensic Anthropologist and her HOT partner who works for the FBI.
I also love the soap opera General hospital, my favorite character is Jason Morgan (intense mob hit man)
My absolute favorite thing to eat is Lasagna and my favorite drink is coke, however i am a huge fan of grapefruit juice although other people think that it is gross.My favorite color is purple.
I like my bed room because i painted it purple and red and i have pictures of my favorite movie stars and Performers every where. The picture above is one of the many that i have in by bedroom of Taylor Lautner as Jacob black in twilight.

I dislike many things. I don't like Public or any other kind of display of affection.
I dislike people who are pretentious.
I hate to eat beans.
I don't like math and i am not good at it either.
I don't like it when people spank their children, i believe that it is just Idiotic. The other day my neighbor's granddaughter hit her little sister so the grandmother slapped the little girl really hard. I stood there thinking that it was really stupid because she was doing the very thing that she was trying to stop her granddaughter from doing. She was unconsciously teaching her that hitting someone is the way to get across a message to them.
I am not a fan of reggae or hip hop music because i think that most of their lyrics are disgusting and demeaning to people especially women.
I fail to understand how those men manage to get women to flock around them.

I don't really have hobbies, I think i'm more into pass times because the things i do are simply because i have nothing else interesting to do.
My favorite pass-time is Daydreaming.
I mean what's not to like? I can make anything happen, how i want, when i want and where i want.
I don't really have an amazing talent, however i am pretty good at biology i find it easy and interesting because there is always something new to learn and everything is interconnected.

My Characteristics

I am intense. This is something that i have always known about myself whatever i do or feel i always tend to do it to either of the extremes.
I have a vivid imagination, obviously, that is what makes me a good daydreamer.
I am very creative, i love to doodle and do arts and crafts
I am a good thinker, I do well in subjects that allow me to think and use my common sense
I am very observant
I Have a good sense of humor and after taking an online test i found out that my main humor is sarcastic

My strength is my ability to stay detached and my weakness is my resistance to change.

I can use my strengths in my personal life because it helps me to not be stressed out by other people, i don't get involved in their personal affairs so it helps me to be calm and i can also use this to my advantage for when people ask me for advice I am able to come up with a logical solution or response.

I can improve my weakness by trying to be more open and trying to really understand the fact that change will happen and that i should just be prepared for it.

My current roles are:
Daughter,
Friend( no best)
Sister, I have four sisters and three brothers
Aunt, I have one eleven year old nephew and one more on the way
student, biology major, then I will study nursing .


Who I will be

I don't have many goals that i would like to accomplish in life. I consider myself to be a person who is easy to please. The main thing that i want is to be happy.

My Goals

1. I want to graduate from sixth form this summer

2. I want to move to Belmopan before my birthday

3. I want to attend nursing school and graduate

4. I want to be in the room when a woman is giving birth to her child.

5. I want to have a steady job



My Dreams

1.
I want to become a nurse

2. i want to be financially secure and have no debt

3. I want be happy doing the things that i love

4. I want to be surrounded by people who love me and care about me.

5. I want to retire early so that i could enjoy my old age

6. I want to build my dream house and not owe anyone for it

My dream house

My dream house would be located in an isolated area. It would have a large back yard where I could build a gazebo and where my pets could exercise. The house itself would have two levels. the bottom area would have a den, bathroom, living room, dining room and a kitchen. The upstairs would have a master bedroom and two guest rooms, each bedroom would have a bathroom. The master bedroom would have a balcony. My house would be surrounded be trees and flowers.



Roles


In the future i would like to have the role of Friend, Aunt, Godmother, girlfriend, Caretaker,
coworker, maybe even adopted mother


Path to get there

To accomplish my goals and dreams I need to stay in school and get by degree in nursing. Then I would need to work hard to be able to earn the money that I would need to build my home and other things. I would need to save as much money as I could for when i stop working. I would also need to try to improve my relationship with the people around me and try to be friendlier.

Obstacles and how i will overcome them

I am certain that in my quest to accomplish my goals and dreams i will be faced with many obstacles. Some that I am not even aware of now. I am however aware of the fact that i may not be able to do some of things i want simply because i may never acquire enough money to do so. Also i may get a serious illness and not be strong enough to do the things that i want. I know that this is a high possibility for me because the females in my family have a history of cancer and diabetes.
I could overcome the problem of not ever gaining all the money i want be ensuring that i work hard and keep a close eye on my budget and especially the money that i spend for luxuries. Even if i don't get the money then i hope that i would be mature enough to still be happy.
I could overcome the problem of sickness by trying to stay healthy and getting regular checkups so that it i do then i would be able to treat it early.


No one person can change the world but i will try to make a difference in the lives of the people that i come in contact with by helping out those who are in need with food, money and shelter when i can . And by using the skills that i will learn at nursing school to help the sick and needy.




Monday, April 19, 2010

I remember when I was younger I used to love watching seventh heaven especially during the summer holidays. I hadn't seen it for a while until last week when it started showing again on hallmark channel. I like the the way that the show portrays the Christian family as being faithful to God and very religious yet they still have fun and enjoy life. Why can't we all have families like that?

David Gallagher from 7th heaven

Thursday, April 8, 2010

Who I will be

I don't have many goals that i would like to accomplish in life. I consider myself to be a person who is easy to please. The main thing that i want is to be happy.

My Goals

1. I want to graduate from sixth form this summer

2. I want to move to Belmopan before my birthday

3. I want to attend nursing school and graduate

4. I want to be in the room when a woman is giving birth to her child.

5. I want to have a steady job



My Dreams

1.
I want to become a nurse

2. i want to be financially secure and have no debt

3. I want be happy doing the things that i love

4. I want to be surrounded by people who love me and care about me.

5. I want to retire early so that i could enjoy my old age

6. I want to build my dream house and not owe anyone for it

My dream house

My dream house would be located in an isolated area. It would have a large back yard where I could build a gazebo and where my pets could exercise. The house itself would have two levels. the bottom area would have a den, bathroom, living room, dining room and a kitchen. The upstairs would have a master bedroom and two guest rooms, each bedroom would have a bathroom. The master bedroom would have a balcony. My house would be surrounded be trees and flowers.



Roles


In the future i would like to have the role of Friend, Aunt, Godmother, girlfriend, Caretaker,
coworker, maybe even adopted mother


Path to get there

To accomplish my goals and dreams I need to stay in school and get by degree in nursing. Then I would need to work hard to be able to earn the money that I would need to build my home and other things. I would need to save as much money as I could for when i stop working. I would also need to try to improve my relationship with the people around me and try to be friendlier.

Obstacles and how i will overcome them

I am certain that in my quest to accomplish my goals and dreams i will be faced with many obstacles. Some that I am not even aware of now. I am however aware of the fact that i may not be able to do some of things i want simply because i may never acquire enough money to do so. Also i may get a serious illness and not be strong enough to do the things that i want. I know that this is a high possibility for me because the females in my family have a history of cancer and diabetes.
I could overcome the problem of not ever gaining all the money i want be ensuring that i work hard and keep a close eye on my budget and especially the money that i spend for luxuries. Even if i don't get the money then i hope that i would be mature enough to still be happy.
I could overcome the problem of sickness by trying to stay healthy and getting regular checkups so that it i do then i would be able to treat it early.


No one person can change the world but i will try to make a difference in the lives of the people that i come in contact with by helping out those who are in need with food, money and shelter when i can . And by using the skills that i will learn at nursing school to help the sick and needy.







Thursday, March 18, 2010

Stress Test

General
This section dealt with topics that were general in nature and about your life as you are feeling now, in the recent past and immediate future.
Your Score 16
Average Score 15
Internal Stress Scale Rating Average (be very careful)
Target Score Below 14
Interpersonal Relationships
This section was about your relationship with the important people in your life such as your; parents, children, friends, etc.
Your Score 25
Average Score 14
Internal Stress Scale Rating Fair (slowly losing control)
Target Score Below 14
Work Related
In this section we talked about your work atmosphere, whether it be working full-time, or be a full-time student and have part-time work or perhaps a stay home parent.
Your Score 21
Average Score 17
Internal Stress Scale Rating Fair (slowly losing control)
Target Score Below 14
Physical Health
This section dealt with your physical well-being, more specifically, how you feel about your overall health and the day to day functioning of your body.
Your Score 25
Average Score 18
Internal Stress Scale Rating Fair (slowly losing control)
Target Score Below 14
Financial Situation
In this section we explored your outlook on money and financial security, and what importance you give to this area of your life.
Your Score 25
Average Score 18
Internal Stress Scale Rating Fair (slowly losing control)
Target Score Below 14
Substance Abuse
This section was designed to determine what your experiences are with alcoholism and drug abuse, and whether or not it's an active concern.
Your Score 6
Average Score 8
Internal Stress Scale Rating Very Good (approaching peacefulness)
Target Score Below 14
Sex Related
In this section we dealt with your feelings and reaction to the subject of sex, and it's various, possible meanings.
Your Score 23
Average Score 13
Internal Stress Scale Rating Fair (slowly losing control)
Target Score Below 14
Intrapersonal
This section was about your inner self, understanding your deepest feelings but more accurately, how your mind works.
Your Score 30
Average Score 19
Internal Stress Scale Rating Poor (approaching danger)
Target Score Below 14
Social
In this section we were looking to determine how it feels to live in your neighbourhood, and how you respond to day-today social activity.
Your Score 26
Average Score 15
Internal Stress Scale Rating Fair (slowly losing control)
Target Score Below 14
Mental Health
And finally, how attitude and beliefs can make us healthy or sick, and how this important area of human psychology fits into the big picture.
Your Score 18
Average Score 10
Internal Stress Scale Rating Fair (slowly losing control)
Target Score Below 14
Completed on 3/18/2010
YOUR SCORE OPTIMUM SCORE
215 Below 140
Emotional Intelligence TestEmotional Intelligence Test

Emotional IQ Test - Free Results

How well do you know your own emotions?

Understanding our emotional strengths and weaknesses is necessary to affect change and growth in our lives. Intelligence allows us to comprehend and internalize the world around us, but without emotional intelligence we are unable to handle the many pressures, roadblocks, and challenges that stand in the way of our goals. Awareness of our emotions is the first step to living a more balanced and focused lifestyle.

Know Thyself...

Knowing your emotional weaknesses allows you to alter your lifestyle to improve your social interactions, time spent with family, problems in your relationships, communication between friends, workplace attitude and efficiency, emotional stability, and many other daily situations in which your emotional aptitude is utilized and challenged.

Your Weakest Emotional Category is:

Assertiveness

Recognizing your emotional strengths is equally important. For example, strong assertiveness can be positive, assuming you are not domineering in conversations and relationships. Strong empathy can be beneficial, as long as you don't put the interests of others before your own well-being. Moderation is the key to successfully handling your emotions.

Your Strongest Emotional Category is:

Self-Reliance

What are the categories of Emotional Intelligence?

  • Empathy
  • Positivity
  • Openness
  • Personal Self-Awareness
  • Social Self-Awareness
  • Confidence
  • Motivation
  • Emotional Expression
  • Emotional Balance
  • Assertiveness
  • Self-Reliance
  • Pressure Performance
  • Social Awareness

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

THE COVENANT
SEELEY BOOTH (bones)

BONES

JASON MORGAN (STEVE BURTON)



Who I am

I like to reading thrillers and romance novels. I am really starting to like historical fiction. I also like watching Tv. I like horror films and romantic comedy. some of my favorite movies are; The covenant, the blindside, Twilight, and so much more it would take me weeks to list them.
My favorite TV series is Bones, which is about a Forensic Anthropologist and her HOT partner who works for the FBI.
I also love the soap opera General hospital, my favorite character is Jason Morgan (intense mob hit man)
My absolute favorite thing to eat is Lasagna and my favorite drink is coke, however i am a huge fan of grapefruit juice although other people think that it is gross.My favorite color is purple.
I like my bed room because i painted it purple and red and i have pictures of my favorite movie stars and Performers every where. The picture above is one of the many that i have in by bedroom of Taylor Lautner as Jacob black in twilight.

I dislike many things. I don't like Public or any other kind of display of affection.
I dislike people who are pretentious.
I hate to eat beans.
I don't like math and i am not good at it either.
I don't like it when people spank their children, i believe that it is just Idiotic. The other day my neighbor's granddaughter hit her little sister so the grandmother slapped the little girl really hard. I stood there thinking that it was really stupid because she was doing the very thing that she was trying to stop her granddaughter from doing. She was unconsciously teaching her that hitting someone is the way to get across a message to them.
I am not a fan of reggae or hip hop music because i think that most of their lyrics are disgusting and demeaning to people especially women.
I fail to understand how those men manage to get women to flock around them.

I don't really have hobbies, I think i'm more into pass times because the things i do are simply because i have nothing else interesting to do.
My favorite pass-time is Daydreaming.
I mean what's not to like? I can make anything happen, how i want, when i want and where i want.
I don't really have an amazing talent, however i am pretty good at biology i find it easy and interesting because there is always something new to learn and everything is interconnected.

My Characteristics

I am intense. This is something that i have always known about myself whatever i do or feel i always tend to do it to either of the extremes.
I have a vivid imagination, obviously, that is what makes me a good daydreamer.
I am very creative, i love to doodle and do arts and crafts
I am a good thinker, I do well in subjects that allow me to think and use my common sense
I am very observant
I Have a good sense of humor and after taking an online test i found out that my main humor is sarcastic

My strength is my ability to stay detached and my weakness is my resistance to change.

I can use my strengths in my personal life because it helps me to not be stressed out by other people, i don't get involved in their personal affairs so it helps me to be calm and i can also use this to my advantage for when people ask me for advice I am able to come up with a logical solution or response.

I can improve my weakness by trying to be more open and trying to really understand the fact that change will happen and that i should just be prepared for it.

My current roles are:
Daughter,
Friend( no best)
Sister, i have four sisters and three brothers
Aunt, I have one eleven year old nephew and one more on the way
student, biology major, then i will study nursing

Wednesday, February 24, 2010

Your fairy is called Gossamer Willowdancer
She is a caster of weird dreams.
She lives in spiderwebbed wonderlands and insect grottos.
She is only seen when the bees swarm and the crickets chirrup.
She wears tiny black spiders on her dresses. She has delicate green coloured wings like a cicada.

Tuesday, February 23, 2010

My Values
1. I value having Intelligence
2. I value having prosperity
3.I value being honorable
4.I value having beauty
5. I value having joy
6. I value having solitude
7. I value having freedom
8. I value being creative
9. I value having safety
10. I value having trust
11. I value having good health
12.I value having High status
13. I value having Loyalty
14. I value having Love/ Romance
15. I value having privacy
16. I value having security
17. I value having commitment
18. I value having a peaceful environment
19. I value having respect
20. I value reliability

My Vampire Name

The Great Archives determine you to have gone by the identity: Angelique de Pompadour

Known in some parts of the world as:
Iseult of The Flesh


The Great Archives Record:
A sensual one who knows the flesh - and knows the blood.

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Precious
1. factors that contributed to precious having low self esteem were that she was abused by her father, she was verbally abused by her mother she always told her she was stupid.
2. the signs of low self esteem that precious displayed were the fact that she wished she was someone else and she was usually quiet
3 the defense mechanisms that precious used to were denial in the end she said that she was just figuring out the type of person her mother was and that it was probably because she was either stupid or not willing to face up to the facts
she was also using displacement because she would get angry at the people in her class and hit them.
4. precious had the neurotic need for affection and approval as well as prestige.
5'. learning to read and actually having people who cared about her helped precious to raise her self esteem.
6. precious displayed signs of increasing self esteem because she started to be more open with the people around her and she started to stand up for herself and her children.
7. from the movie precious i learned that sometimes people are going through lots of things in their lives that we don't know about and us not being nice to them or being mean can leave a lasting impression on their already low self esteem.
8. I would definitely recommend the movie precious to others because it displays some of the problems that the people in or society has to face and teaches us a valuable lesson about the effects of low self esteem on the lives of young people.

Monday, February 15, 2010


My role models
She is very outgoing and always speaks her mind although it sometimes gets her into trouble but she still does it. She has a big heart and is very charitable

Who I was

I was born on the 8 of august 1991
I have lived in corozal my entire life
I have two brothers and four sisters.
I am the middle child in my family or at least i was until a year ago when my parents adopted a newborn baby from Belize city.
Almost a year ago my parents split up so my father has moved to the city and i haven't seen or spoken to him since( not that i want to!)
I don't miss him at all.
I graduated from corozal community college when i was 17 years old and have completed a year and a half of junior college majoring in biology.
One thing that i am very proud of is the fact that i graduated from primary school with the highest PSE score (Primary school examinations.) and up to today i still have the highest score for PSE at the school that i attended. I also did quite well on the CXC examinations ( Caribbean examination Council) with grade one in math( basic),English A, Social studies and human and social biology; grade two in English B, Principles of business, General biology and a grade three in Spanish.
One of the saddest and most traumatic moments of my life was when a guy who was my friend died in our last year of high school. it was the first time in my life someone who i had known died, and so naturally i had sort of a hard time accepting it. As if that wasn't enough a month after that my grandfather died.
One of the happiest moments of my life so far was probably the day that i realized that i love someone for the first time. I am not an emotional person and i find it hard to become attached to people and actually feel intense and serious emotions but this time i did and i was sure of it. By now you probably think that i fell in love with some guy right?. Wrong! I have never been in love with a guy. I was speaking about my little brother that we had adopted. I usually am indifferent to my sibling, there is just too much of them and they are annoying but this one i actually love.
I believe that the person who has influence my life the most has been my mother because i see how she tries to do the right thing and how the decisions that she made when she was young are coming back to haunt her now. I don't ever want to be in her position and she always gives us advice to never do the same things that she did.
Other people who have influenced my life are Pastor Max Rudd and his church in Oklahoma who have been very Kind to me and my family and have always been there to support us with Love and affection.

Self Esteem Quiz

My results on the self esteem quiz was 25%

Sunday, February 7, 2010

Personality Tests

I took four personality tests to assess the type of person that i am, or at least appear to be.
The first was the Big five personality test, my results were
That i am nervous/ high strung i scored in the 76th percentile for that
I typically don't seek out new experiences ( 53) percentile
Disorganized (8) percentile
Introverted (1) percentile
Disagreeable (2) percentile

I believe that the results for this test is true because i answered all of the Questions Honestly and i have always been told by my friends and family that i am this type of person.

The Four traits test

My results from the four traits test were that i am 43 percent melancholic and 40 percent phlegmatic. Which means that typically i am unstable emotionally and self conscious, timid and bashful my strengths would be that i am deliberate and slow in making decisions. My weakness would be low confidence, reserved and depressed.
My strengths as a phlegmatic would be that i am polite, amicable, reliable and easygoing. my weaknesses would be that i am negative and have a dry wit

I for the most part agree with these results althugh i am not sure how much of a phlegmatic i really am. I thought that i would be more melancholic than anything else.

The Enneagram test

The results for this test are that i have a type five personality which means that i feel ambivalent about the world and that my mind is my best friend. It also stated that i am gifted in analysis and making sense of things. perception and introversion come naturally to me. My inner world can become a hideaway from the real one.
It also stated that my variant is self preservation because i scored the highest on withdrawn traits followed by assertive traits followed by compliant traits.
I Completely agree with the results of this test.

Know your mind
for introversion/ extroversion i scored way below normal for all the traits Except impulsiveness where i got a little more that the normal score and reflectiveness where i scored about 6.5 higher than the normal

For emotional stability i scored again way below normal for everything except Anxiety where i again scored 6.5 more than the normal and guilt where i received 5 more than the normal.
For mastery/sympathy my results showed that i am more aggressive and manipulative than the normal and have 1.5 more feminine sexuality than the normal female
For sexuality i have normal libido, sexual stereotype 6.5 less satisfaction than the normal and 6.5 more restrictive.

I believe that all the results on this test were accurate except for the fact that it says that i am more agressive than the normal.

In all of the tests one reccuring conclusion is that i am introverted and not god at making friends. I suppose i can fix that by making an effort to be nice to people and try to make more friends.

Sunday, January 24, 2010

Defense mechanisms and neurotic needs

The two defense mechanisms that I overuse are supression and intellectualization. Supression as a defense mechanism is when someone consciously put away an unpleasant memory so that they can deal with it later. This is not to be confused with repression which is done unconsciously. Many times I find myself supressing events and emotions that i just don't feel like dealing with at that moment.For example when my parents got separated i just simply ignored everything that was happening at home, I didn't speak to anyone about it and i didn't think about it.I carried on mylife as if nothing had changed. It wasn't until a couple months afterwards that i actually dealth with the entire situation. I also used this defense mechaniosm a lot during the first two years of high school. To me this actually works out well and not only in bad situations but also in situations where i find myself feeling strong emotions. these situations are usually very emotionally taxing for me.
I admit that it is unhealthy for me to supress so much and i believe that if i tried it would be much better if i used another defense mechanism such as sublimation which is to use your emotions from one unpleasant memory or event to fuel something positive.
Intellectualization is the defense mechanism in which you examine your feelings as if you are another person. I also use this alot in my personal life. For example when i am with my friends and we are discussing something important about my life or character i can always join in with them and discuss my emotions, motives, flaws and strong points in a cold and detatched way.That has however turned out to be problematic because i now find myself doing this even when i am soul searching or even when i try to discuss my feelings with other people (which i don't like to do) i end up coming off as dispassionate and emotionless.
That is probably why if you ask anyone who knows me they would tell you that i am usually distant and impersonal.

Neurosis is the unhealthy expression of anxiety the two neurotic needs that i use the most are The neurotic need for prestige and The neurotic need for self- sufficiency and independence. the neurotic need for prestige is when a person desires public recognition and acclaim, material possetions and accomplishment.
I often find myself wanting to be the best at everything that i do. Even in high school i always had to be the best. I am not a person who likes rules but i have one that i hold dear " never compete unless you know that you can win."
I truly believe in this rule and it has provent to be very effective in making me feel good about myself. When i participate in something is because i know that there is a good chance that i am going to win.
To fix this problem i suppose that i could be less competitive and calculating and just do things for fun.
The neurotic need for self sufficiency and independence is also very dominant in my personality.I strive to be independent, i don't like being tied down to anyone. I hate having to rely on other people and that is probably why i am such a loner. I absolutely hate commitment to anything wether it is a relationship or a promise or even a bet. I don't like to be around people much because they usually want to form some sort of bond with you to try to get oyu to be commited to them in some way. For me to have friends but not have any commitment to them i remind them that i don't need them.I would do this by not speaking to them for a couple days or by saying " i don't need to be your friend i am just being nice to you."
my method is working because recently one of them asked me " if i died would you even bother to go to my funeral?" and of course me being myself responded " of course i would just don't expect me to cry."
I know that i sound a little harsh but this is what i do to feel comfortable and i think that my freinds on some level understand that.
I think this is unhealthy and i could fix this by being more outgoing and by trying to get over my fear of commitment. (but honestly i dont see that happening.)